Silent Saboteurs Part 2
How are you doing with your New Year's resolutions?“Libraries could be filled if all the New Year’s resolutions were written in books and printed yearly. But a bookshelf could be enough for the volumes containing the resolutions that have come true.”
Tamás Csitáry-Hock
Do you easily incorporate new habits into your life, or is uniformity better?
Has it ever happened to you that you secretly longed for a happy and prosperous relationship? Still, something deep inside you kept telling you that it would never occur to you because you always screw something up anyway?
Maybe you longed for a promotion, but somehow you felt that you weren’t good enough, that you couldn’t handle such a big responsibility? Is an employee position better?
What about New Year’s resolutions? Do you write a list of your plans and desires?
In what proportion are they implemented?
As I already mentioned in Part 1 of Silent Saboteurs, 95% of our lives are controlled by our subconscious programs, most of which do not even come from us. Only 5% of our life comprises our desires, will, and reality formulated by our thoughts.
Many people state on their list of resolutions at the beginning of the year that they will lose x kg, exercise regularly and eat healthily. Are you familiar with this decision?
In the first few weeks, you diligently go to the gym, squeeze vegetable juices, and choose a salad instead of pizza.
Then something turns on. The desire to allow yourself a “crime” grows stronger and stronger in you. Just this once, you can safely choose the pizza; since you’ve been so good so far, you can reward yourself with it! Then the desire for rest increases. You allow yourself to stay home for this once; if you miss one appointment in the gym, nothing happens. You had such a tiring day at the office; you deserve to relax. Then not only do you choose carbohydrate-rich foods more and more often, but you also skip training countless times. Finally, you feel it doesn’t make sense and leave it all. Have you ever been this way?
Indeed you have already met your silent saboteur. And it looks like you let it win. You have handed over the reins, the control over your life.
Even though your consciousness determined that you would lose weight and become healthier, your silent saboteur, whose root may be a lack of self-confidence, was stronger and extinguished your desire for a healthier life. Maybe it was programmed into you unnoticed in childhood that you cannot do this anyway.
And you didn’t even notice what happened. It may even be that giving up brought peace to your life, that “it’s okay, at least there’s no problem with training, preparing healthy meals, I can rest more after the stressful work.” The worst-case scenario is when you feel guilty but can’t bring yourself to do it. Which type do you belong to?
Those so-called New Year’s resolutions
This is also the case with most New Year’s resolutions. You write them down, put them in a drawer, find them a year later, read them, and realize that only one or two have come true. Nothing happened to most of it. Why? That’s why! Because it’s not enough to think positively! It’s not even enough to write them down!
As long as you haven’t found the silent saboteur in yourself, you haven’t recognized your deepest fear about your goal, which is undoubtedly within you at the cellular level, then you can’t achieve your goal with only positive thoughts. After all, it’s like one part of you wants to reach the set goal, stay with the above example, and be thinner and healthier. In contrast, the other part of you quietly, in the background, does everything to sabotage it and instead strengthen the comfortable, usual things in you. Your saboteur has such a mighty power that it quickly manifests the object of fear so that you no longer have to fear its occurrence.
These two parts of you are waging a vast war inside you. And how can you be a winner like that? Your two halves cancel each other out, and you remain in the middle, in the “safe” state of being, often forgetting your goal and where you want to go.
It’s time to realize that writing your New Year’s resolutions is not enough! It is not enough to formulate them but to make them happen; you have to do and do! And if you feel the urge to stop, recognize that “only” your silent saboteur is working against you, but you don’t give in to it! If you want to lose weight, be fitter, and be healthier, you have to do it! Going to the gym, consistently making vegetable juices, and sticking to your diet. There is no “crime”! It’s just not worth it! I know this sounds cruel. Sorry for that, but sooner or later, you will understand. If you need help making it easier, just contact me! Some excellent Journey techniques can help you with it.
You will see that if you are persistent enough, sooner or later, your silent saboteur will give in and step aside so that you can go for your goal without hindrance. Little by little, you will be able to let go of your unhealthy eating habits completely, and training will become so natural to you that you cannot even imagine what life would be like without it. And it is easy to imagine that your enthusiasm will transfer to your immediate environment, and you will encourage them too!
Exercising and eating healthy was one example. But, of course, the same goes for all your other goals, whatever they may be!
First, you must articulate it clearly, then find out what kind of silent saboteurs stand in your way. And if there’s any, it’s time to eliminate this saboteur so you can finally do your work to achieve your goal! But how do you let go? How do you get your silent saboteur to make space for you to realize your full potential? There are many tools in The Journey method‘s toolbox to help you with this!
If you get rid of your silent saboteurs, when it’s time to check your list at the end of the year, you can cheerfully tick off your completed goals!
Dig in and discover your silent saboteurs today! It’s time to bring them to the light so you can reach your true self and finally achieve your goals! So adventure up!
Further parts of the Silent Saboteurs article series
Silent saboteurs part 1
Do you know who really runs your life 95% of your day? Did you know where most of your subconscious programs come from? You can find out by reading this article!